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It is clear that the way to heal society of its violence... and lack of love is to replace the pyramid of domination with the circle of equality and respect.
~Manitonquat
Welcome to Creative Resolution Group. Whether you seek support for you and your spouse, your partner, other family members or yourself, your decision to seek therapy is a big step towards creating positive changes in your life.
Victims of domestic violence often do not seek help because they are afraid of retaliation from their partner. You can create your own safety plan ahead of time for when you need to get away fast. If you need help immediately, call 911. |
Characteristics of a Potential Batterer.
- Jealousy – the abuser will say jealousy is a sign of love.
- Controlling behavior – the abuser will say they are concerned for your safety.
- Quick involvement – he comes on like a whirlwind, pressure to commit to the relationship.
- Unrealistic expectations – expects partner to meet all of their needs, perfect mate, parent, lover, and friend.
- Isolation – tries to cut you off from all resources.
- Blames others for problems – someone is always doing him wrong, out to get him.
- Hypersensitivity – easily insulted, angered, “hurt” feelings.
- Cruelty to animals or children – punishes animals brutally, insensitive to pain or suffering, expects children to be capable of doing things beyond their ability.
- “Playful” use of force in sex – likes to hold partner down during sex, shows little concern about partners desire for sex, uses anger to manipulate compliance.
- Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde – sudden changes in mood, explosive and moodiness.
- Past battering – a batterer will beat or emotionally abuse any partner they are with long enough for the violence to begin.
- Threats of violence – most people do NOT threaten their mates, but a batterer will try to excuse threats by saying “everybody talks like that.”
- Breaking or striking objects – used as punishment, but mostly to terrorize the person into submission.
- Any force during an argument – holding down, physically restraining a person from leaving the room, pushing, or shoving.
For a more in depth look at domestic violence, please click here.
For a more in depth look at Children and domestic violence, please click here.
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